What You Should Do to Your HATERS

Cause haters are gonna hate, no matter how bad or good you do all things!
You failed, they mocked you. You succeed, they compared you. You did a kind thing, they said you were acting. Smh. 

The truly definition of 'HATERS'

Is that a TRUE STORY?
Yep, that's why we call them 'haters'.

Sometimes, I myself wonder and feel pity on some people who proudly show themselves as haters. I mean, don't they feel ashamed with what they are doing? They just embarrass themselves by showing how rotten their hearts, minds, and mouths publicly. Meanwhile, you know that people with good attitude, kind heart, and nice manner are always well-liked and loved. 

Another thing that makes me more wonder is; don't they have a job or anything to do to be productive and useful for communities and countries? Cause I see there's no benefit to be haters. They will be just sitting in front of their screen as mouse potatoes and typing the nasty words to harass other people they don't even know.

Funny, but that's what a hater does!

My suggestion to these worms is they should do that thing to themselves. Put the gun against their temples, they have to experience the feeling of being hated and bullied by others. My mom always teaches me this: If you don't wanna be hit, don't hit. If you don't wanna be hurt, don't hurt. I believe, if all people realize this concept, the world will be as peaceful as heaven. No war, no evilness, no haters!

Whatever they do, haters are always there to show how miserable their lives are and that's why they envy and hate other people who can achieve and have better things in their lives.

In this writing, I will share some things to do to your haters, if you have any.

1.   Ignore them

It’s kind of difficult thing to do, but you should do this first choice. Why? It’s simply because haters are like fart. They smell like death but you can’t see them for real. They usually speak nonsense on social media like a super bass speaker, but hide like a coward chicken. When you take care of them, they can’t be happier to do what a hater should do. Don’t waste your precious time to breathe in the fart that will kill you. It somehow will be blown by the air and all you need to do is leave the contagious area. In other words, they will get bored and dismiss themselves gradually when you ignore them.

2.      Shake it off! 

Shake it off, shake it off!

Yup, it’s Taylor Swift’s song. I think she’s also annoyed with countless haters she has. ‘Shake it off’ here means ‘to beat an opponent or to free yourself from someone or something that is limiting you’ (Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary). I just want to make sure about the literary meaning before talking about it further. The words ‘opponent’ and ‘someone that is limiting you’ clearly refer to your haters. While ‘something that is limiting you’ definitely tells about what your haters do to you which intentionally limits you, such as mocking, harassing, and bullying. 

If your haters still annoy you even when you have ignored them, then shake them off! Beat them with your achievements and prove that they are not your level to beat. They are too easy. One thing to remember is never reply hate with hate. It will just downgrade and make yourself as cheap as them. You don’t want to be like them, for sure.

3.   Be kind to all people including your haters

My mom also reminds me, “Help the less fortune”. So, it’s better to be kind and help your haters when they are in needs. You know that no one lives without problems, including your haters. When they have problem and you help them, it will be like putting hot coal upon their heads and then you apply cold water to that burned area. They will be ashamed to receive your help.

4.   Keep going on what you have been doing

Show your haters that your life is amazing with or without them. Your haters may be as annoying as a noisy mosquito, but you can always turn your favorite music louder to make that noisy mosquito soundless. Do whatever you love and never let your haters limit you. Keep going on your effort and live your life. You are the one who is in charge to live your life, not other people. 

They don't even know that actually I can fly :D

5.   Thank them for existing in your life

The higher a tree grows, the stronger the wind striking it. You need to have a strong root to hold on. Never let yourself fall down with a crash just because you have haters. If I may say, haters are actually confused biggest fans who envy you for being who you are. They spend their times on stalking, commenting, and talking nonsense about you. No fans will spend their time on people they don’t like, won’t they? Thank them for making you realize that you have something good in your life that makes other people envy. Thank them for dividing your precious self from cheap people like them. Thank them for training you to be a patient forgivable person.

Time flies and people change. Don’t waste your time to take care of what doesn’t make you happy. Keep having a beautiful soul, mind, and heart. A precious person like you is someone that people always want to meet. That’s what makes you different from those haters.

P.S. 
There's always a very thin line between hate and love :D

 

How Chocolate and Coffee Can Make You Happy

Hello my awesome readers! 
Have you ever heard the words saying "Chocolate makes you happy" or "Coffee warms your heart"?

Well, in this post, I will be talking about the effect of consuming chocolate and coffee on our mood. Actually, I have posted this on How to Move On and Let It Go as one way to mend your broken heart feeling. But in this post, I want to highlight it more. Chocolate and coffee simply can make you happy. They are mood-booster duo. But is it true that both chocolate and coffee can really influence our mood? To prove it, let’s talk about the scientific things about chocolate and coffee and what they can do with our mood.

Chocolate

Consuming chocolate can affect the amount of serotonin in the brain. This chemical is known for having an effect on mood and is regulated by many anti-depressants. Chocolate contains substances called unsaturated N-acylethoamines that is responsible to activate cannaboid receptors that have the same effects that occur with marijuana consumption, but on a much smaller level. A finding by a Russian chemist in 1841 stated that raw bitter chocolate contains theobromine that is similar to caffeine in coffee. This substance is a stimulant that can make you feel more alert and energetic resulting in greater feeling of happiness.

Coffee
 

A study conducted by Harvard University published in the World Journal of Biological Psychology states that caffeine in coffee stimulates the central nervous system by increasing the production of neurotransmitters in the brain such as noradrenaline, serotonin, and dopamine. So, it can provide the same effects as a mild antidepressant and not just a stimulant. In other words, coffee can be a powerful drug to release stress. However, the overdose consumption of coffee may reduce your sleep time and could make you twitchy. So, take enough portion.

Maybe you don’t really understand about the chemical terms above, but chemically, chocolate and coffee do have the ability to boost mood. However, consuming both of them in unwisely dosage won't be good for your health. You must know that everything that is 'too much' is never good.

How to Move On and Let It Go - with Quote Pictures

Hello my awesome readers!
This time we will be talking about "move on" matters or "how to let it go". The word 'it' here refers to the uncomfortable feeling that we commonly know as sadness or brokenness.

Read in Indonesian version 

Well, sadness must have been experienced by all of us. If you have pet at home like dogs, you will notice that they can be sad, too. So, if animal can be sad, how about us human? Here in this writing, I will share some things you can do to move on from your sadness or brokenness and let it go.

 

However, before we start, it is crucial to differentiate the cause of sadness itself. Why? Because like illness, every different kind needs different cure and treatment as well. 

Case : Broken Heart because of Love
Falling in love with someone is beyond our control. There are some emotions that we cannot manage. Unlike anger that we can reduce gradually, love is capable of making people to do some unusual things (Read also: 18 Signs When You are in LOVE). 

However, the truth is, we cannot set up how our love story will be like at the end. Of course, all people want to have a 'happy ever after' love story like those in most fairy tales. But don't you know that some fairy tales didn't end up in happy ending? You don't live a 'happy ever after' fairy tale, it's just the fact that you have to be broken.

When you fall in love with someone, you will pay your attention to him/her. So, when your crush ignores your or makes out with someone else or your couple cheats on you, yes, you are falling apart, breaking into pieces. It's deeply hurt. Your brain and heart must have a battle inside. Brain can be strong, but heart is fragile. 

It's never easy to cure a broken heart because of love, but at least, you can try these.

1.  Take a silent moment for yourself

 
Give yourself a time to release the sadness. You are in charge to cure yourself. Take one night or a day off to think and recall the bitter sweet things. Just release it all, play sad songs, and cry out loud. In this point, you may look back all the memories, those photos or things about him/her. 

Now, wipe your tears. You have to promise yourself “It’s the last time I cry for this one.” Keep away those memorable things. You can keep them in the hidden place or just burn them down.

2.  Change your mind

The strongest power in you is your mind and heart. They often fight like day and night because they see things in different light. But, change your mind first. Then your heart will follow it. You can read some encouraging quotes or motivational stories to help you. Remember one thing; you are too precious to be hurt. You deserve your happiness.

3.  Go out and breathe

Decorate your room

Get a new atmosphere. Repaint your wall, decorate your room. Go outside and get a life. Feel the warm sunlight and breeze. You can breathe in the fresh air and exhale your breathless. Oxygen and a new ambience will refresh your body, mind, and soul.

An important note:

Don’t come to the places that remind you to the bitter sweet moments, because when you are alone you will feel a lot more alone if your mind thinks “This is the place when I was with him/her”, “This is the place where we first met”, “If only I have you here with me now, I won’t be this lonely”, “This is the place where I saw you with him/her”. Never ever.

Skip the memorable places

4.  Hang out with your (best)friends or family

Call your best-friend, friend, brother, or sister to hang out with you. A company from your close ones will help you get rid off the loneliness and it will make you ‘forget’ your brokenness for awhile. 

5.  Share it with your trusted ones

While you are hanging out with your close ones, you can share your story. But, make sure you tell it to the right trusted ones; the ones that will be good listeners, cheer you up, calm you down, encourage you, and won't embarrass you for being broken in front of other people. 

6.  Meet new people 
     It is relating to point number 3. You can go out and meet new people. Smile and greet them. Help people in needs that you meet on your way. Who knows, you meet your true love among those people.

7.  Do your hobbies

What is your hobby? Do it. You can try a new recipe if you like cooking. You can start painting (but not your ex’s face) if you are an artist. You can go surfing, snowboarding, and singing if you like. Pass the time doing whatever you love. Time flies and heals everything.

8.  Try some new things

Besides your hobbies, you can try some new things you’ve never done before. You can change your hairstyle or hair color, go to some new places, try some new restaurants, or maybe travel the world. You will have some new experiences. Be fun!

9.  Listen to some cheerful songs 
     Skip the sad songs. It’s the time for cheerful songs. Play them the whole day, sing the lyrics, and dance if you want to. Cheerful songs build a good mood. A good mood will make you happy. You can also watch some funny movies and laugh out loud. 

10. Keep away all the memorable things

It is started with point number 1 and 3 above. Throw away the stuffs and never come to the places that will remind you or potentially reveal your sadness. You have gone this far, don’t ruin your good effort.

11. Eat chocolate, drink coffee

Absolutely the sweetest mood boosters that can be consumed

Chocolate and coffee simply can make you happy. Let’s talk about the scientific things about chocolate and coffee and what they can do with the mood.

-    Consuming chocolate can affect the amount of serotonin in the brain. This chemical is known for having an effect on mood and is regulated by many anti-depressants. Chocolate contains substances called unsaturated N-acylethoamines that is responsible to activate cannaboid receptors that have the same effects that occur with marijuana consumption, but on a much smaller level. A finding by a Russian chemist in 1841 stated that raw bitter chocolate contains theobromine that is similar to caffeine in coffee. This substance is a stimulant that can make you feel more alert and energetic resulting in greater feeling of happiness.

-    A study conducted by Harvard University published in the World Journal of Biological Psychology states that caffeine in coffee stimulates the central nervous system by increasing the production of neurotransmitters in the brain such as noradrenaline, serotonin, and dopamine. So, it can provide the same effects as a mild antidepressant and not just a stimulant. In other words, coffee can be a powerful drug to release stress. However, the overdose consumption of coffee may reduce your sleep time and could make you twitchy. So, take enough portion.

Maybe you don’t really understand about the chemical terms above, but chemically, chocolate and coffee do have the ability to boost mood.

Case : Broken Heart because of Bad Things

Like brokenness because of love, broken heart due to bad things also needs different cure and treatment. Bad things in this case can be because you get bad news, you are disappointed, you are failed, or you have a very heavy life burden.

Remember, nobody in this world having no problem even if they look happy outside. Who knows that actually they are fighting a great battle inside of them? 

Basically, it returns to what kinds of 'bad things' themselves. Mindset always holds the strongest power to change your way of life and heart! A positive mind will lead you to have a calm heart and a blissful life. 

I will not reveal the steps as detail as in the first case. I believe that after you read the first case above (Broken Heart because of Love), you are wise enough to take some proper steps to relieve your brokenness.
An addition I can state here is "prayer". Prayer can help your heart be lifted up and always believe that God can do what seems impossible for us.

One thing that I would like to remind you here is there will always be day and night, even if you try to stop them or don't want them to appear. Just think that "the pain that you've been feeling is just the dark before the morning" as there is a rainbow after the rain.

 

This is one of my mottos that I want to share to all of my awesome readers.
"We were all born as a single fighter with the very great power. Win every battle. If you lose, you are a mighty legend."

- Shierly June - 

Be strong and keep moving on!

18 Signs When You are in LOVE- with Quote Pictures

Hey! 
This time we will be talking about "love".

First of all, may I ask you some things?
What makes you read this article?
Are you in love right now? 

Well, love is one of the basic emotions. So, it is a natural feeling. It is similar to the sad feeling that we can feel suddenly. So, it will be horrible if a human being does not have love.

So, where does the love come from? Commonly, it comes from our sight or vision and  then it is passed on to our heart. However, not all people fall in love due to this visual reason. Chemistry and inner beauty also have an important part in this case. Maybe this is why Ed Sheeran said, "People fall in love in mysterious ways" and it keeps him Thinking Out Loud. 

Back to the point, in this article, we will do a test or I can say it as a revelation about the signs that emerge when someone falls in love. Maybe you're feeling it right now? 

 Read this article in Indonesian language

1.   Someone who is falling in love has mixed feelings

Among happiness, worry, longing, jealousy, and other uncomfortable feelings that attack and strike your heart together, you are just feeling helpless. So, what happens to you when those feelings come to hit you? You will just feel like insomnia like David Craig had said, have unstable appetite, and it will be quite hard for you to concentrate on what you are doing at that time. Your mind will fly and bring you to imagine your crush. Am I right?

2.    You will be thinking about your crush all day and night long

Continuing number 1 above, if you read this part and suddenly a name or a face pops out in your mind, well, you have a crush on that person. "Crush" is the first level before someone falls in love. Carly Rae Jepsen said, "It's way too soon, I know it isn't love. But I need to tell you something: I really really really really like you!". David Archuletta also added, "Why do I keep running from the truth? All I ever think about is you." You know what? Love songs always tell the truth.

3.    You have a side job as a stalker

Which one are you? lol

True Story, my wish too!

If you do not know his/her name, you will search it hard till you get it. You will ask your friends, look up in the Facebook and every social media, you will die of being curious! Remember this lyric? "Cos I'm dying just to know your name". One Direction has told you one of the signs. If you get his/her name, what you are doing next is, of course, stalking everything about your crush. You will be very update to stalk him/her. And this is how you get your new side job. You enjoy his/her beauty from your dark corner. So, which one are you? Stalker, secret admirer, or love private investigator?

4.    You keep your crush's photographs

Lucky you who are living in this advanced era. The social media has been there to help you. You can get as many details about your crush. You are made easy to take some of his/her photographs and keep them. It will be a different story if you live 20 or 30 years earlier in the time of your parents or grandparents. They had to work a little hard to find love or just to meet their crush.

5.    You will find out your crush's type

You will want to know everything about your crush. As a professional love investigator a.k.a secret admirer a.k.a stalker, you start the mission from his/her status and details on the social media and you won't hesitate to ask his/her friends. If you are capable, you can conclude it yourself from what you know about your crush.

6.    You will try to be your crush's type

You have got all the details and this is the show time. You will try to be someone that your crush likes. Maybe you will change your hairstyle or fashion, improve your good habit, and become his/her type. The goal is just to make your crush impressed and want you. Not all people will truly change themselves, some will still prefer to be who they really are.

7.    That’s a mini heart attack when suddenly your crush called you

It feels like there is an angel called you and your name was uttered from his/her sweet lips. He/She knows you, yes YOU! Among billion people in this Earth, you are one of the people that he/she knows! And ... Oh, stop this dramatic sentences.
The point is: it will never feel the same when someone you like/love calls you. That's a mini heart attack that makes you frozen for a half second. You will be really aware if your crush is around your area.

8.   When you are talking about your crush, you become super excited suddenly

That was a super hectic and tiring day. It made your good mood ruined. Suddenly your wild friend told something about your crush to you . Realize it or not, you would have a mood-booster that moment. As long as it was not about your crush's wedding or new girl/boyfriend.

9.    You will be the happiest living thing when your crush is around

Mickey   : “Let's hang out, Donald!”

Donald   : “Nah, I have a project to do. Maybe next time”

Mickey   : “OK, I will go with Minnie. She said she will invite Daisy too”

Donald   : “What? Daisy will be there?”

Mickey   : “Yep”

Donald   : “OK, count me on!”

Mickey   : “You said you have a project”

Donald   : “I have done it”

Mickey   : “Oh, a text … From Minnie"

               “She said Daisy cannot join”
Donald   : Quack!

Question: 
Whose feeling you try to relate? Mickey or Donald?

10. All you see in him/her is perfect

Love is sometimes blind that it covers all flaws in your crush. You may have a high expectation about your future lover, but when you have fallen to someone, his/her imperfectness will always be an exception.

11.  You will do anything for your crush

It was raining cats and dogs and you only got an umbrella. You saw your crush was stuck in a building and could not go out. What would you do if you were in this situation? 
You would lend your umbrella or you could offer him/her to use the umbrella together. Surely, it would turn into a romantic moment if he/she said "OK". Make use every little chance to steal your crush's heart!

12.  Your “Wildest Dream” is about you and your crush

Human's mind is a 3-dimensional illusion room where you can imagine anything. Also, when you are in love. Back to point number 2, because you have been thinking about your crush all day and night, you will imagine a scene about you and your crush. Suddenly those "how"s and "if"s pop up in your mind. For instance: How to make your crush love you too, how if someday you and your crush are together, and bla bla bla.

13.  You will try to keep in touch with your crush

An Indonesian-Javanese ancient proverb said "wiwiting tresna jalaran saka kulina" meaning "love can grow from habitual things done together". It is true that through a good communication and interaction, both people will get to know each other well. However, it is not easy. Sometimes you have to do the first move to start it. It can lead to a sweet story or end up with a rejection. Whatever it takes, you will never know if you never try.

That moment that leads to that feeling

14.  You will remember all (important) things about him/her

Being a stalker secret admirer private love investigator has made you have a lot of information about your crush. You will remember every single detail such as his/her birthday, hobbies, favorite food, educational background, and so on. You will try to be the first one who congratulates him/her on his/her birthday.

15. You wish you could freeze the moment you spent together with your crush

It is for you who are lucky enough to spend the time with your crush. It can be only two of you or together with your friends. You will be missing the happy moment that unfortunately had to be over. So, you will say to yourself "If only time machine did exist, I would travel there thousand times."

16. All the love song lyrics make you think about your crush

When suddenly you hear “One Thing” of One Direction in a mall, you remember your crush. You listen to Jepsen's "Call Me Maybe" at your room, you think about him/her. Definitely all love songs!

17.  If you never meet your crush, you will willingly come to see him/her 

This case is for you who have a long distant relationship, usually only by texting, chatting, Skyping, or calling. There will be one day when you decide to see him/her in person although it will take you to travel the world.

18.  You will keep all things your crush has given to you

Something from someone special will be special as well. Even if it is not expensive thing such as book, pen, paper, etc. You will keep it very well.

Well, my good readers, those are the signs that emerge when someone falls in love. Do any of them suit you? Or, Are you thinking about someone when you read this? 
If yes, well, you are in love.